As Time Goes By.....

A little bit about EVERYTHING.. Family , friends , life, death,rants and raves. Just a place for me to get it all out of my system..

Location: Arkansas, United States

Monday, August 25, 2008

Jack at the Zoo

Brookfield Zoo



Troy & Jack at Brookfield


Saturday, August 23, 2008

Take me out to the Ballgame

August 20,2008

Ian's first trip to a major league game

to bad it was a Cub's game

(Sorry Beth)


Ian in front of statue of

Harry Carey

Ian with more art work at

Wrigley Field

Chicago, IL


Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Surgery and other things

One week from today I will be having my left knee
replaced .. So please say a prayer, howl at the moon,
walk naked in the woods or wrap the white voodoo doll
in happy colors and cushion it from pain.
Do what ever it is you do to make sure this goes
well. I need to get healthy soon.
Jack is getting big enough to go to Disney
and the San Diego Zoo.
I need to be able to keep up with him.
I am very comfortable with this hospital
and I like my Doctor .. Imagine that ,
a Doctor that I don't HATE !!!
Arkansas Surgical Hospital
It seems strange to not hear from Marc this
week. I have talked to Ian, and Beth .
Immediate cause of death:
Severe coronary atherosclerosis
Accute coronary artery thrombosis
Acute myocardial infarction
and add hypertension to all of that.
There will be a "educational fun fund "
set up for Ian , with Serena and Jim (Marc's
best friend) being the overseers of the account .
This money came from Marc's bio father, Kayvan
and from a couple of friends of ours that wanted
to "do something".
The general reason for this fund would be to help
offset cost of "fun" educationl programs.
International Language Village, Space Camp,
Boy Scout Camp, Performing Arts Camp-- you get the
idea .. This is not for Disney World or Six Flags.
One more thing...
On September 27th
there will be a
Get together at our house.
We will be playing darts, dominoes and
maybe some canasta or golf
(The last 2 are cards games)
Please arrive after 5pm and plan to leave
before you are to
tired or drunk to drive.
I will provide , beer, jambalaya,
coke and iced tea.
If you feel energetic. You can bring
something to add the the food and
beverage table.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008


For those of you that do not know ,

our nephew Marc died on August 6


He had 3 blocked arteries and the 4th one was not

in great shape. I have not been given much information.

Not that I expected any less from Cathi and I think now

I can add Karen to that list also.


They can keep their secrets , but they need to remember .

I was the one that talked to Marc and Ian every week.

I am the one Marc called when he needed to laugh,

vent or tell family secrets and sometimes he just

needed to talk to somebody that he knew would

never repeat these conversations.



Beth called me from the hospital on this

black day of my life. As you can imagine she was very

rattled and not making a lot of sense. But then I was so

shocked that I don't think I could have processed much

at thatparticular moment. She said that Marc

had listed me as next of kin- and of course I started

making calls and plans to get back to Wisconsin to

take care of Marc and to make sure Ian was

processing all of this .


The minute that Cathi discovered that I was N-o-K,

you can bet your last dollar she called a lawyer to make

sure SHE could take over. She picked a strange time

to get involved in her biological son's life.

Needless to say -- Cathi had to barge in like a bull

and block anything that I had planned. She has had no

contact with Marc or Ian for a very long time .

Once she stepped in all communication to me was

ended. I found out later that Marc had made it to the

hospital alive and talking ,but that is where my info ends.

I am sure I will never know whatreally happened..

I also know that Karen has hurt me - deeply

and I don't know if I will ever forget her words.

She seems to think that I had no right to say or do anything .

Karen- Just remember - It was me that Marc called

when things were good and when things were bad.


Marc knows that I would have NEVER sent him off in

blue pinstripe pants and would never have denied him the

eulogy he deserved or had his favorite music played

(Did you know that Marc hated the screechy off key hymns

that he grew up hearing??)

or had that strange pastor preside over the

services. That was all Cati. How dare he say all

of those negative things about Marc's and Marc's life

in Christ??How dare he say those negative things

in front of his son and all of the other people that

loved Marc??? This service HAD to be approved by

somebody in charge ..


There were also some strange things that went on at the

funeral home , but I feel that others witnessed them , so I

don't need to list them here.


Tom and I were going to have the service in Waukegan, where so

many of Marc'sfriends are , but there was a bunch of

smoke and mirrors used to stop that also.


Also let me say , that Cathi & Karen beat feet to get

to Marc's apartment. What were they searching for ??


The man was on the verge of poverty. What did they think

they would find ???? I am very resentful that they could not

even wait until the body was cold before they started



I called Marc's aunt Nahid and I also spoke to Kayvan and Alex.

Since Marc was communicating with his other family

I felt they needed to be notified. They were devastated !


It is now more than a week since all of this happened and

still the tears are flowing . I am also very concerned

about Ian. I am so glad that he is going to have

Buck & Carie in his daily life. He needs that stability.


Serena & Tom were my rocks during all

of this even tho there were in pain also.

I am a lucky woman to have them


I also am glad to have finally met Jim and Barbie. I have

heard so much about them over the years and now

I can put a face with the names. Marc always said that

Jim was the brother he never had , and I am so happy

that he had Jim to talk to and share his life with.


All I can say now , is Marc knows

Sunday, August 03, 2008

Spelling Lesson

For those of you in need of a refresher course
in spelling , you can call our
brilliant grandson and he will tell you
how to spell the following words:
and last but not least
Pretty darned impressive for a boy
that will not be 3 until the end of January !!!